I would love to transform my Tumblr into a sex advice blog. Feel free to ask questions and I will answer them. My advice is different from most others because I consider the physiological effects of sex and use statistics from reputable sources.
It’s okay to be kinky! Any sexual experience is normal so long as it’s consentual. Don’t be afraid to try new things sexually. In fact, it’s healthy for your brain and stimulates your brain more than if you were to stick with the same things over and over again.
Gynecology and Female Sexuality
So I really think that gynecologists should have the responsibility of asking their patients about their sexual health and not just check for STDs and uterine functionality, etc. Having functioning sex organs (i.e. ones that can make you orgasm, arouse you, lubricate you) are just as important to check for. Sexuality is part of the human experience and should be just as important to your health as the ability to procreate. I’m sure there are some gynecologists that do ask these questions but society does not do any justice in its concealment and degradation of the sexual female. We need to really give empowerment back to women and tell them that it is alright to be sexual and it is important to maintain a healthy sexual lifestyle.
P.S. I understand that many gynecologists are also obstetricians (mainly since I wanted to be an OB/Gyn) but those who take on the title of mainly gynecologist should really play this role in educating women about their sexuality.
“Anyone who believes sex is meant only for reproductive purposes obviously isn’t doing it right…”
(Source: 5secondstilltheworldends, via oozeling)
I unfortunately tried to accomplish things in a backwards manner. I started this blog as a personal one where I would post anything and everything but would prefer it to be a sexual Q&A. Please do not let my oldest posts confuse this fact. I just now created an account for my own personal use, whatever that may be. Enjoy my personal account if you’re curious.
Remember Kids: Pussies don’t belong on a pedestal. It’s the clitoris that takes you to Elysium and back. One of the biggest misconceptions about sexuality is that all women orgasm solely from vaginal stimulation. The truth is that most women cannot reach orgasm from vaginal stimulation alone and/or can only reach orgasm from clitoral stimulation.
Here is a helpful page in locating the love button.
Playtoy
I would love to use my sexpertise and have other girls to experiment on and learn from. I already know of all of the sexual uniqueness that exists in the world but have yet to experience it first-hand. I think this curiosity spawned from knowing a few girls personally that have issues with exploring themselves sexually. It’d be really neat to teach these girls and girls like them what I know in person. Even just as an educational experience, not necessarily sexual. I could give advice that would change their lives and help them to enjoy all of what their body has to offer. The experience would be all about her (or maybe more)…
Now how do I get another girl to consent to such a thing?
(Source: hardcorenyan)
The Hourglass
With this body type body fat is distributed to the hips, thighs, buttocks and to the upper body and breasts. The waist is approximately half the size of the hips and bust measurements. Hips and bust measurements are virtually the same.
(Source: dazzledent)
The Banana
With this body type the waist is usually not much smaller than the hips or bust. Body fat distribution typically sits in such a way that makes the body look straight like a ruler.
Every woman has a different body fat distribution in their bodies. No one shape is better than another or more healthy than another. Love who you are and love your body.
The Pear
Women with pear-shaped bodies tend to have more fat stored around their buttocks, hips, and thighs. Measurements around the hips are larger than the bosom.
(Source: myfashionrunway)
This lingerie is adorable! I must have something like it. It also looks like she is wearing a maid outfit. I hope the one I’m in the progress of sewing is wearable like this.
(Source: myfknpanties, via oozeling)
Let’s get one thing straight here: I love my son; however, I am very aware of the fact that I was too young when I had him. Too young to fully grasp the the situation I was in, too young to understand the choices I had, too young to take my options seriously, and absolutely, without a doubt, too fucking young to be a mother. So when I notice someone getting attacked about their choice to have an abortion or give their child up for adoption, I tend to lose my shit.
Let me start you off with a list of reasons why I sure as shit HATE being a 21 year old mother:
- The father of my child is a dumb ass, but he genuinely loves his son, so I have no right to keep his child from him. The father should be just as involved as the mother. However, it took a very long time to explain to him the importance of ALWAYS placing his son in a car seat when taking him for a ride ANYWHERE, the ongoing issue of hygiene (brushing his teeth every day, making sure he changes his underwear and socks daily, bathing him regularly, etc) to this day is a concept that he can’t seem to grasp, the importance of having discussions with me instead of yelling at me in front of our offspring, he still can’t manage to stop smoking in the house the two days a week that our former embryo is with him, and heaven forbid he actually teach him something that would help him in school.
- I have still not gone to college due to the fact that his father is so lax with rules and attentiveness that I am certain if I left him in his care that he would become extremely unruly or possibly just walk out of the front door, unnoticed, and promptly get lost/stolen/something else horrible.
- I cannot take my son with me if/when I go to school because I will not be able to see him enough to properly raise him since I am poor as fuck and will absolutely be working while attending school.
- I am not one of those little girls who dreamed of being a mommy when she grew up. That thought never crossed my mind. My son was the second baby I had ever held (the first one by choice, as the first one had been forced upon me).
- I am selfish. I think of myself first, and then my sons wants. The things he needs are always a top priority, but honestly, I think of myself first foremost.
- I am not financially stable.
- I am not mentally stable.
- I am literally SO stressed out about being a parent, that I cry about it every fucking day.
- I have fucked up my own life so badly. It is terrifying of thinking about how badly I’ve already screwed his up by deciding to raise him when I was 17. People who say dumb shit like “Nobody could raise him better than his own parents” are sincerely ignorant the world of adoption. I don’t even understand where that logic comes from.
- My body is disgusting. I loath it entirely. My metabolism has slowed way the fuck down, my tits are about a size smaller and not even close to cute unless I grab a push up bra and pray to the cleavage gods that today my rack can look decent, my stretchmarks do not please me under any circumstances, and my c-section scar scares the hell out of me when I glimpse at my naked body in the bathroom mirror. Not to mention the fact that I have back problems and my period has been insanely messed up ever since I stopped breast feeding.
- I’ve been in love once in my life. One time. And he couldn’t handle the fact that I have a son because, like me,he is nowhere near ready for a child.
- Also, I live in a town that I hate and cannot leave because of my little guys father.
So really, go ahead and tell girls that if they are “mature enough to make the decision to have sex, than they are mature enough to deal with the consequences”. Go forth and spread your wisdom about the similarities between inserting a dick in your vagina and raising a fucking child. Tell girls that they don’t have the right to decide what to do with their bodies, no matter how mutilated and destroyed they become in the process of pregnancy. Tell us that we should keep our legs closed and our mouths shut, and I will sit you the fuck down, tell you about the joys of young motherhood, and tell you to shut the fuck up and let every girl make her own goddamn decision without being scared of being publicly stoned to death for making the wrong choice. Don’t scare little girls into being moms. Seriously. There are things that I absolutely love about being a mom, but I would have loved them more like ten years from now. Instead, I have a fucking migraine and am the kind of exhausted that you can only achieve when trying to chase after and understand an angry four year old boy all day while hoping to God that one day, I can once again sleep through the night or possibly have a career, social life, and maybe even a love life. Actually, I would settle for a day where I don’t cry. Fingers crossed!
Slow clap.
Becoming pregnant when you are not ready to is not something that anyone wants to deal with. It’s not like anyone actually wants to have an abortion it’s just a better option realistically than dealing with the consequences for 18 more years. I look at it this way: Would you rather have a kid now when you, yourself, are still a child/young adult or wait to raise a child to be carefully nurtured under adequate socioeconomic conditions? I choose the latter. Having a child is not appropriate for teens or young adults since you haven’t finished your own early “childhood” development. Planning to have children is a mature decision that both parents should make together.
Abortion isn’t necessarily the only option available but it isn’t the worst option considering the consequences of having a child. But to be honest, there are plenty of adoption services that deal with teen pregnancies but either way there are not enough people adopting children for the amount of actual orphans there are.
To those of you who are against abortion for reason to believe that it is murder please be aware that up to 70% of pregnancies lead to miscarriage naturally in the first trimester. Think about what makes a human being a person. You can consider that personhood does not start until personality develops and perhaps it will ease your mind regarding abortion. Abortion is the elimination of an embryo, not the murder of another person.
Ultimately, protect yourself from pregnancy if you are not ready for a child. Be aware of your options and use contraception until you and your partner want to have a child together.
(via oozeling)
How times have changed, with the start of the internet age.
Love it. I recall needing to explain a few things to my mother that she wasn’t aware of.
The More You Know
This chart (pdf version) is great. It thoroughly explains each type of birth control method, its effectiveness and protection abilities. The only thing I don’t like is that there is a lack of warning that the “fertility awareness” method may not work for everyone. Every woman is different and does not necessarily ovulate regularly each month so it should definitely be used with heavy caution. The pulling out method should also state that pre-ejaculate does not contain sperm which many people have misconceptions about. (Although it is possible for pre-cum to carry sperm that was left in the urethra from a previous ejaculation.) Take some time to learn your options.
